Sometimes you are "Just a Mum"

There you are, going about your 24-hour, 7-day-a-week “job” thing you do, wiping snotty noses, putting bandaids on grazes (often pretend ones), getting something akin to bugger all sleep thanks to insomnia/relentless projectile vomiting/monsters under the bed/a husband who wants sex and some

10 Replies to “Sometimes you are "Just a Mum"”

  1. 😀

    Phew! It’s something that’s hard to put into words, and I think you’ve done an amazing job of it. All that other so-called “job description” stuff happens or it doesn’t, depending on the circumstances, but whatever happens and whatever I do, I will ALWAYS be “just Mum” to MY kids. Nobody else can (and would possibly WANT to!) ever be that for them.
    It says a lot that most of us still call our mums “Mum” or some variation of it when we’re adults, instead of reverting to the whole first name thing that seems to happen elsewhere in society. It’s a title that can never be taken away.

  2. Well said. I have never called myself or been called ‘just’ a mum, but I have been introduced by someone as ‘one of the school mums’. Just a bit reductive. I guess I should have been proud that I had graduated from being a ‘kinder mum’. One day, if i’m lucky, I might become a ‘uni mum’. What was truly astounding was that I was working full time on a feature film at the time, yet I was still reduced to the appendage of my children.

    1. That’s true, too – happens often that being “reduced to the appendage of your children”

      On the flipside – like with “just a mum” – I think a lot of us take it far too personally and think too much into it.

      I am often introduced as a “school mum” … because people just like to know how person A knows you or where from. If the introducee wants to know more about you, they’ll ask. They just like to place you and know where you fit in with their friend. There’s not really anything more to it than that and it certainly isn’t intended to be offensive or diminutive.

      I think we all – some more than others – have the propensity to turn it into something it’s not.

      Just like is done with “just a mum”.

      1. Sprung! I think you just spotted the massive chip on my shoulder. As with most things, it does no good to make other people’s comments all about oneself. You’re right, I’m sure my friend was just finding an anchor point for a quick intro.
        Thanks Mad Cow

        1. LOL – I think most of us have our heads go the same way!

          Excellent point re it being no good to make other’s comments about oneself – although most of us tend to do it at some point or another.

          Normal, yeah? 😀

  3. I would like to say thank you. You have somehow managed to put a good generalisation into perspective. I think sometimes we all get so absorbed in our kids and life and the universe( = 42), that we get lost and forget that we are just human, just 1 person and not superhuman. I have to remind myself of this everyday as a single mum, we just can’t do everything. And even though some days you feel like ripping you hair out jumping up and down and screaming from frustration because the kiddies just won’t listen, they love you with all they are, and you love them, and the being ” just mama” is bloody great!

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