Diary of a Mad Cow
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Have already dealt with this and been suitably judged for my choice. About 2.5 years ago when my little man was 6 he asked the question. I did the whole of of course he is real and if you don’t believe you don’t get presents deal because I love Xmas and didn’t want him loosing the magic of it all so young. His response was extreme, putting it into perspective my little aspie child is incredibly literal and I could see his anxiety rising as he knew I was lying. It was at that point that I explained it as a story and magic and fun etc and he was happy with that. He still gets presents from Santa and I will continue to do that til the day I die and he still gets plenty of enjoyment out of seeing the gifts under the tree Xmas morning – so i don’t think he is scarred for life. I have been told that it is my job to keep lying to him about this stuff, but I personally think that if I respect people’s decisions to try and keep the magic alive for their kids I too should be given the same respect in return.
Agreed … I think we (as a society) often overlook the fact that all kids are different and will take whatever they’re told in any number of different ways.
My 9yo is still convinced Santa is real … and I’m totally ok with that, too.
The judgement, mostly due to “I would never do that”, is what bothers me 🙁
the words “Santa is real” have never, and will never come out of my mouth.
there is a distinct difference been lying and make believe. stories about wizards, monsters, flying peaches, talking animals, etcetera are certainly not lying, I think it’s the same with Santa, the Easter bunny and (for me) bible stories.
if my boys had imaginary friends I would treat them with the same respect, not accuse my kid of lying.
childhood is magic, I think we should allowadd much of that as possible.
incidentally, I love Moone Boy 8pm Monday nights ABC2, he is 12, I think, and has the COOLEST imaginary friend ever.
Well said re the difference between “lying” and make believe. I often find it funny that some who will judge another for ‘lying’ will often believe, and faciliate a belief in their kids, something that others will just as readily consider ‘unreal’ (as in not real, not totallly cool :))
I struggle with the term ‘lie’ when it is, for all intents and purposes, not only harmless but to enhance enjoyment in others 🙂
I was hoping you would get to the lie that parents tell their children about Jesus being real. Oh well.
LOL That’s a whole other post in itself … was getting a little long and rambly as it was 🙂